Eek!!! We’ve all had our fair share of awkward parties where we strategically worked the room according to where our ex was standing in order to avoid them, so isn’t time you work out what to wear when seeing your ex?
The way we carry ourselves changes when we reluctantly come in close proximity to them, making our anxious minds reel and think; ‘I wish I wore something different’, ‘I want to show him how great I feel now’, ‘Do I look like mutton dressed up as lamb?’. It depends on your circumstances but there’s always one nagging thought but for an Effortless Bitch, the outfit isn’t the problem.
Whether you ended your relationship on good or bad terms the feeling of confident progression is what we aim to portray to our exes. Is it about showing off your new partner, your cleavage or your new car because you finally got that promotion you’d been pining for after so long? No, it’s about showing how happy you are and how good you feel, it starts with feeling good from the moment you step out of that shower and slip on that outfit. So, what do you wear?
PICK YOUR KNICKERS
The first thing you need to focus on is your underwear for the exactly opposite reason you may think. You don’t need to wear pretty underwear, because it’s all about what you’re wearing on the outside. Unless you’re at your event with a new partner and you plan on getting a bit freaky later on, you should be making like Bridget Jones and wearing the most ugly, but practical pair of knickers you can find, and like Bridget points out, they dramatically increase your chances of getting into bed with someone but once revealed look like granny undies and can be quite off putting.
Regardless of who you choose to wear your undies for, ensure you’re picking a pair that fits properly, is preferably a smooth fabric and doesn’t create underwear lines or back fat. Once you’ve got that down, you’re free to move on to the next step.
PLAN YOUR OUTFIT
This is not the time to wing it or hope inspiration will strike, if your wardrobe usually gives you a hard time then this tip is especially for you. Have your outfit planned out, and that includes trying it on with shoes and the lot. If you just lay in bed the night before and think ‘yep, I’ll wear that skirt and top’ it’s very likely that the sleepy state you were in when you had that bright idea will show up in your outfit and you’ll leave your house feeling frazzled before you’ve even got to your event.
Part of the planning means that you should at least shave your legs, extra points for un-chipped nail polish and even more points for groomed brows, but no biggie on the last two.
PICK YOUR VA-VA-VOOM POINT
Whether you want him back, or want to show him what he lost and how much better off you are, you need to pick a certain feature of yours and accentuate it. This could be your collar bone, your eyes, your legs or your arms, or any body part that you love, that feels appropriate to show and can be accentuated by clothing and/or accessories.
And just because we all love a little laughter, I want to introduce you to a fantastic account on instagram called Texts From Your Ex, which you can follow here!
I'm a Fashion Stylist, Image Consultant and Effortless Bitch leader trying to create a community of women with a positive body image, even winged liner and amazing core wardrobes.